High on Happiness

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Best friends tell us the truth about ourselves.  Whether it’s as simple as saying that the blue looks better on us than the gold or as tough as confronting us with the news that we’re wallowing in stinking thinking, best friends level with us.  They hold up mirrors for us so we can see ourselves more accurately and make better decisions in our lives.  They provide us with reality checks.

Sometimes their honesty shines on our strengths, beaming its appreciation for our accomplishments, applauding the things we do well.  It keeps us from taking our gifts for granted and helps us stay on the best tracks.

Sometimes their honesty is a light-hearted jab.  “Put on a few extra pounds there, didn’t you?  Want to go for a run?”

And when we really need it, they can deliver the kind of tough-love truths that shock us right into reality, instantly wiping away all the phony stories we were telling ourselves about being helpless victims or poor powerless saps.

What they bring to the table is unconditional love.  They don’t judge our worth; that’s already beyond question.  They just look and tell us what they see, trusting that we will do with the information whatever we think is in our best interest.

If we want to be our own best truth-telling friends, that’s the perfect viewpoint to adopt.  Grounded in the assurance of our essential worth, we need to be loving and observant and then honestly report to ourselves what we see.

Where are we feeling tension, or stress, or pain?  What stories are we running from the dead past, and how are they coloring our perceptions?  What desires and possibilities are calling us that we have been ignoring?  What needs have we been neglecting?  What obstacles have we allowed to block our forward motion?  Where are we in harmony and at ease?  What’s providing us with joy and satisfaction?

When we look honestly at our lives, as if through the eyes of a truly loving friend, we give ourselves the gifts of broader, more informed choices, and of enhanced awareness of our own multi-dimensionality.  And our lives take on renewed richness, depth and joy.

So here comes happiness again, rolling up from the heart wearing nothing but a grin.  It tumbles into town naked as a jay bird, unpretentious as can be, and as honest as the day is long.

It’s got nothing to prove, no point to make, no judgment at all, except to call a joke when it sees one.  And to tell the truth, it tends to see one on just about every corner.

Some folks think it’s a simpleton, the way it overlooks the gravity of things and teeters on the edge of laughter all the time.  But the fact is, it was born in joy and just never got over it.   It calls things as it seems them, and mostly happiness sees things as beautiful, unparalleled, glistening and grand.  That’s where the grin comes from, and why it spills so easily into laughter.

It is what it is.  And don’t you just love it!